BoomerGirl Diary

Dear Mi-Ling:

After my mother's death, I moved into the family home. It has been seven years. I am finding it extremely difficult to decorate in my style and to "claim" the house as mine. How do I start? I painted all the walls white and tore down wallpaper ... that's about all.

Who can I hire that could help me get started in making this space mine? I don't have a lot of money. Magazines haven't been too helpful, because I can't visualize the finished product.

— Linda

Dear Linda:

I'm sure it's difficult and heartwarming to live in your mother's home. I can only imagine the memories that you conjure up on a daily basis. Maybe, part of you is holding onto the former home, to keep the memories of your mother alive.

To make this place your own you must incorporate your personality into the space.

The first thing I would do is pack up all of your mother's furniture and belongings.

Keep out a few of the items that bring you joy and remind you of your mother and divide the rest among family members.

Whatever is left can be donated to a charity that your mother supported or have a yard sale and use the money to help decorate your new space.

Find an inspiration piece to lead you down the right path. It might be your favorite painting or a vase you picked up from your travels. Oftentimes, that piece will say something about your design style and the colors that draw you.

Start with your bedroom or family room and move on from there. When you take your time, you will make fewer mistakes. Remember: Paint is cheap, and if you select the wrong color you always can paint over it.

If you don't have a budget for a designer, consider purchasing a few key pieces from a specialty furniture store. Many of these stores have in-house designers that will assist you with your project at no cost — with a purchase.

Another option is to visit home tours in your area or look at home design books and Web sites.