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Q: My husband is 47 and obsessed with his balding hair. He swears his "comb-over" hides his bald spot. I think it's his security blanket, and it looks ridiculous. He says, "Look at Donald Trump's hairstyle. I'm in fashion." Many people have told my husband point blank that his hairdo is goofy. People laugh, stare and snicker. I seem to be the only one that gets embarrassed. Amazingly, my husband has heckled other men who do the same thing. But nothing fazes him. I've told him how handsome I think he is, bald or not. Is there some way I can get him to break this ridiculous habit?

— Maureen

A: Albert and Sarah have been married 59 years. Here's what they say:

Tell your husband: "First of all, don't listen to what other people say. Just go about your life and don't worry about losing your hair." I've lost a lot of mine. My advice is for him to go to a hair stylist and get a decent haircut. That's what my wife did with me, and I felt good about it afterward and so will (he).

— Albert

It sounds like your husband needs some reality testing. You need to ask him how he feels about losing his hair, and if losing it changes him and makes him feel old. If this is what is causing him to "cover up" his balding situation; we often cover up our true feelings about aging and instead "comb over" the fact. It sounds like your husband is refusing to face the facts, and faking (it) to swear it isn't happening. So many changes take place in the aging process that we do not particularly appreciate, but it is who we are. Check with him about how he would feel if the reverse were true and it was you who was losing your hair (developing wrinkles, etc.) and were covering up and looking ridiculous.

— Sarah